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A way out of the OVERTHINKING trap!!!

…..I’d been sitting here for almost half an hour, staring at the blank screen hoping to write something, the first thought that came to my mind was, “it needs to be perfect”, I kept thinking about what would be perfect and whatever came to my mind just wasn’t good enough. I kept thinking and different thoughts kept coming to mind, and I just froze.The moment I realised that I’m getting in that spiral, I just took a few deep breaths and reminded myself that “it is okay if it is not perfect, why does it even need to be perfect, I just need to start, I can always edit things”. This simple reminder gave me the freedom to write whatever came to my mind fearlessly and finally I am publishing the blog.What is overthinking?Everyone overthinks things once in a while, although sometimes some people just can’t ever seem to quiet the constant bombardment of thoughts. In such cases, the inner speech usually involves unhelpful thought patterns;People spend hours going through these random thoughts and events, analysing them and stay stuck in their heads. And It’s not just words that people get stuck within their lives but sometimes, images too. People may envision their loved ones dying or replay a distressing event in their minds like a traumatic violent video they saw a news channel. Either way, the tendency to overthink everything holds people back from doing something productive most of the time. As people start overthinking about important issues in their lives, they can get stuck in , , and which leads to even greater personal distress.Research suggests that rumination is a major risk factor for the onset of major mental health issues like major depression and anxiety symptomatology across different age groups.Managing anxiety and ways to stop overthinking1. Determine your controlWhen you find yourself getting zoned out and overthinking, take a deep breath and step back to analyse the things you have control over. If you don’t have much control over the situation, the best you can do is to prepare for it. You can’t control how others behave, but you can control your response, your effort and your outlook. When you focus on the things you can control, you’ll be much more effective in changing the outcome of the situation.2. Identify your fearsSometimes, overthinking may not be such a bad thing, but something that challenges us to confront our fears. What is crippling is the “what if” thoughts. So how do we respond such thoughts? Take a step back and ask yourself,For example, overthinking may look like “At the same time, problem-solving may look like, “.”3. Create a plan to manage your stress3.1 Positive affirmations Using positive statements in various situations can help avoid falling in the trap of overthinking. Preparing for a challenging situationAs you are about to enter a situation or face something that you find overwhelming, for example if you’re about to start a presentation, you can help ourselves to prepare with positive statements such as;Coping with a stressful situationReaffirm your confidence and safety in challenging yourself help activate your “fight” mechanism and improve performance;Reviewing and acknowledging your achievementEven when things don’t go according to the plan, it is important you still take time to review the situation and acknowledge yourself for what you have achieved and the efforts that you have put in. Every small step is progress and part of the process, so try to focus on the positives rather than the negatives.3.2 The 54321 Grounding MethodFirst, take a moment to become mindful of your breath. Just taking a few deep breaths invites the body back into the moment, slowing everything down and becoming aware of the surroundings. Here is how you can do it;Repeat this process as many times as necessary. Take your time and notice how you feel afterward.3.3 Count your blessingsBe thankful for what you have, practise gratitude. It is an acknowledgement of value irrespective of monetary worth. You can introspect about it in your own thoughts or write it down, or talk about it with your loved ones, ones you are thankful for what they have done for you. Research shows it is an effective stress management activity and helps people with a heightened level of meaningfulness and engagement in work.3.4 Practise optimismIt is a process to cultivate a habit of thinking a certain way, working on looking at the bright side of life. For example, you can try doing it by having a notebook in which you can write about the best possible future for yourself, or by thinking about the positive aspects of a situation.3.5 Avoid social comparisonYour struggles and achievements are unique and different from that of other people around you. Try not to dwell on your issues and not compare yourself to others. You can use strategies such as engaging yourself in a healthy activity when you start to have such thoughts.3.6 Practise kindnessYou can practice kindness byshowing compassion anddoing good things for others. This can be practised with anyone, friends or strangers or your own self, directly or anonymously, spontaneously or planned. Find a way to learn kindness today and every day.3.7 Develop healthy relationshipsRelationships are an important aspect of our life. Pick a relationship and try working on strengthening it. For example, by investing time and energy in healing, growing, confirming, and enjoying the particular relationship that you want to work on.3.8 Do things that interest youIncrease the number of experiences at home and school/work in which you “lose” yourself, things that you feel passionate about. These are activities in which you feel a “flow” while doing them. For example, activities that you find challenging and absorbing, it can be, reading, sketching, painting, exercising, cooking, travelling, watching movies/series/ documentaries, gardening and so on.3.9 Replay happy momentsWhen we overthink, we usually tend to replay negative thoughts and stressful memories in our minds that overwhelm us. You can put a break to that by consciously thinking about the good things in your life or around you. For example, remembering good times, reviewing an old photo album and sharing memories with a friend etc.3.10 Set goals for yourselfGoal-setting and committing to it is an important component of success, whatever you are aspiring to reach, whether in your career or your personal life. Although try to set realistic and achievable goals. If you aspire too high, you may not be able to achieve it, you may become frustrated and give up. And if you aspire too low, you will not be able to push yourself to reach your full potential. Try picking just one or two goals that mean a lot to you and spend time and effort to achieve them.3.11 Practise forgivenessA lot of negative thoughts that people overthink about, may result from holding onto negative emotions and resentment that they have for other people and sometimes their own selves. By practising forgiveness you can work on letting go of the negative emotions or that anger and hate. For example, you can practice it by keeping a journal or writing a letter of forgiveness.3.12 Practise spiritualityTake sometime to appreciate nature and existence. You can practice spirituality irrespective of whatever faith you may have, it necessarily doesn’t have to be religious.3.13 Care for your body and mindEngage in physical activities, practise meditation, enjoy humour and set healthy boundaries. For example, exercising, keeping a healthy diet, and getting enough sleep/ rest, laughing and smiling.3.14 LearnPick up a new hobby and Involve yourself in a healthy activity like, learning a new music instrument, and/or picking up a new skill like cooking.3.15 Look at the bigger pictureYou can try doing something to add to the greater good in any way possible for you. For example, doing something to protect the environment and living in a sustainable way. Environmental sustainability is about meeting the needs of the present without compromising the ability of future generations to meet their needs. It may be helpful to provide greater meaning to your life and look beyond the issues that we face in our day to day life.3.16 Seek professional coaching
Mridula Sharma
Mridula Sharma
Mon Oct 11 2021

World Mental Health Day 2021

Recent global events like the COVID-19 and the Tokyo Olympics have brought the much needed public discourse on mental wellbeing to the forefront. During the World Health Assembly in May 2021, governments from around the world recognized the need to scale up quality mental health services at all levels.At a more household level, the extensive measures deployed to contain the pandemic have severely impacted all of us. Loss of loved ones, illness, fear of disease, lockdowns, quarantines, isolation, lack of access to essential goods and services, travel restrictions, work from home, job losses, financial impacts etc., have taken a serious toll on everyone’s mental health and continue to do so. This has sensitized the general public on the importance of mental wellbeing.With the spotlight on mental health, we, as a society, have a real shot at bringing in change. I say it with cautious optimism, but we have a chance at scaling up the piecemeal mental health infrastructure like helplines built during the pandemic and make it a sustainable public service. This truly could be the mental health moment the world needs desperately.Mental Health in an Unequal World​​The World Federation for Mental Health (WFMH) is an international membership organization founded in 1948 to advance, among all peoples and nations, the prevention of mental and emotional disorders, the proper treatment and care of those with such disorders, and the promotion of mental health.This year the WFMH has chosen the theme for World Mental Health Day 2021 as ‘Mental Health in an Unequal World’.Mental health conditions contribute to poor socio-economic outcomes, poor health, illiteracy, premature deaths, human rights violations, economic losses etc. across the nations. But the distribution of these poor outcomes is far from equitable. The COVID-19 pandemic has highlighted the inequalities due to race and ethnicity, sexual orientation and gender identity, and the lack of respect for human rights in many countries, including for people living with mental health conditions. This year’s theme particularly highlights the adverse impact of inequalities on people’s mental health.In most  low- and middle-income countries (LMICs), mental health is a three-pronged challenge;Sustainable Development Goal 3 and IndiaFor the first time, world leaders are recognising the promotion of mental health and well-being, and the prevention and treatment of substance abuse, as health priorities within the global development agenda. Mental health and substance abuse have been included in the Sustainable Development Agenda, which was adopted at the United Nations General Assembly in September 2015. This single global policy change has moved the needle.In India, there is a growing recognition of mental health. In 2017, the President of India, Ram Nath Kovind asserted that we “need to talk about mental health issues and treat ailments such as depression and stress”Following the inclusion of mental health in SDG-3, the Mental Healthcare Act, 2017 has been enacted. It replaces the Mental Healthcare Act, 1987 and makes several provisions to improve the state of mental health in India. This includes stating access to mental healthcare as a ‘right’; and instituting Central and State Mental Health Authorities (SMHA), which would focus on building robust infrastructure including registration of mental health practitioners and implementing service-delivery norms. Furthermore the Insurance Regulatory and Development Authority (IRDA) has directed all insurance companies to make provision for medical insurance for treatment of mental illness on the same basis as is available for treatment of physical illness.Many more progressive steps like the introduction of ‘Happiness Curriculum’ in Delhi Govt. schools, MCI changing MBBS syllabus after 21 years to focus on mental health, NIMHANS’s national helpline psychosocial support and mental health, KIRAN mental health rehabilitation helpline by Ministry of Social Justice and Empowerment, Manodarpan initiative of Ministry of Education for psychosocial support for mental health & well-being of students etc. are strengthening the public mental health infrastructure.These initiatives are not just limited to the government. The private sector is participating as well. Startups like , ePsyClinic, YourDost, InnerHour, Wysa, Now&Me etc. are changing the mental health landscape in India and beyond. Furthermore, non-profit initiatives like Mind@Ease by the Tech Mahindra Foundation, Mariwala Health Initiative, The Live Love Laugh foundation etc. are targeting the underserved population.These are steps in the right direction but it is just the beginning.TickTalkTo and the COVID-19 pandemicTickTalkTo formally launched to production on Oct 10, 2018. We started with a vision of a society where mental healthcare is a fundamental right and every member of our society feels cared for and has the comfort of having someone to lean on. This year’s mental health day marks three years of inception. And well, what a journey it has been!Majority of our work has been during the time of COVID-19. When the pandemic hit and the mental health issues spiked, we were not prepared to handle the increased traffic. We had no idea what we were staring at and we did not have means to service the therapy requests. We didn’t have a choice but do what best we could do within the given constraints. And with some divine intervention things started to work out. Many psychologists started to approach us and offer pro-bono services on the platform to stand in solidarity with the countrymen during the challenging times. This was pivotal. Our spirits were emboldened and one thing led to another. Here are a few highlights from the recent times,We got recognised as a , Govt. of India.UnfinishedMental ill-health is a very serious issue. It impacts each one of us in manners which we don’t realise. It curtails individual freedom, it limits opportunities, it reverses growth and it shatters the nation.Never in the past has so much attention been paid to mental wellbeing. We, as a society, have a real chance to build universal mental health care infrastructure. We must all come together to build more resilient individuals and communities.If you are someone who is suffering, seek help. If you are someone who can help, extend a supporting hand to those in need. All for one and one for all.Let us make sure the conversation around mental health is NOT just a trend every mental health day. Let us make a sustainable change.
Team TickTalkTo
Team TickTalkTo
Fri Oct 08 2021